the heart as it is | courage • grief • beauty

Today’s prompt from Onsite is “What do you imagine deeper connections with others to look like for you?”

At first, I was going to say more frequency in contact. While that may be true for some relationships, I realize that a lot of my closer friendships are pretty much all longer distance, the ‘closest’ one being about 45 minutes away, and the furthest being in a completely different part of the U.S. entirely.

When I think of my closer friendships, though, I think of friends who really take the time to get to know me, and friends who intentionally careve out time for me, being the busy adults that we are. Something I feel like I have missed in my friendships lately though, with life changing and my own beliefs changing, is exploration of things that we have in common. I will still be trying to find these kind of friends. In the meantime, close friends that I do have, I still am able to maintian deep connections to them by still somewhat talking about the things that we still have in common about, as well as intentionally resting in contact.

This was such a reflective prompt to respond to – it is really making me think about my social life as life in general has become more busy (but a good busy though) with marriage, graduate school, and a new church. There are a few facebook groups I belong to of other girls trying to hang out in the area. I also recently heard of timeleft.com – so those are some resources I can definitely look into. It does feel tricky though, on what to choose with being tired after work and also wanting to sleep a lot during the weekend. Maybe I also need to accept not having much of a social life during graduate school to begin with while I am working full time.